where is your head @?

1. Meet someone special
2. Build a relationship
3. Get commitment
4. While always making sure he is up to all the "standards" that have been set
5. Get a ring
6. Have the DREAM wedding
7. Buy a House
8. Have kids/Have career

With all of these rules laid out before us, no wonder we are lost within our own minds. We are missing out on happiness, and relationships. The connections that are right in front of our face. There are so many things we "should" have, "should" be, and "should" like. We are lost inside the image of who we "should" be, we lose sight in who we are at this very moment.
I cant help but wonder if our minds are too occupied with having/finding a relationship, that we are blind to the men all around us. Who is holding your hand? Being your shoulder to cry on? Who is walking by you on the street, giving you a smile? We are oblivious to the everyday attention we get, because we are lost inside the abyss of "why does no one want me?"
Have we been programed to form a stronger relationship with our ideas, than with those around us? Maybe it is time to throw out the ideas of the past, and write our own future. Would you cut out rule #2? Would you forgo all of them except #7? Would you pass on all the traditional ideas of happiness, to buy a home of your own? Happily living independently? Does our true happiness fall inside the lines, or outside? Would we be happier if we colored outside the set lines of the picture? If we stopped worrying about being seen as messy, would you make our own rules? Would you let go of "should"? Maybe forgoing the whole pre-copied picture,and draw our own sketch of the perfect life.